Life has certainly changed since January, when we were setting goals for the year, many of us feeling so motivated and full of optimism. I’ve been thinking a lot about my goals lately, and how they’ll change considering this period of self-isolation and fears about the economy. One word keeps coming to mind: grace.
I’m someone who typically pushes myself pretty hard, putting pressure on myself to accomplish a lot and continue to grow. But these days, I’m taking the pressure off. The goals I set in January will certainly change, but more importantly, my mindset for accomplishing any goal will lead with kindness and grace.
For me, it’s important to look at the goals I set for myself in January for a couple of reasons, rather than scratching them completely and going into survival mode. Then, it’s about thinking through life right now and prioritizing where I put my energy. Here are my steps for re-evaluating and reframing goals right now:
Give Certain Goals Temporary Closure
Since adding homeschooling to my plate and needing to focus on keeping my business afloat, there’s only so much I can do right now. Looking at my goals to see if I can give any temporary closure helps me clear some mental space.
For instance, I had a goal of writing a book this year, submitting a book proposal to editors in the next few months. That will remain a goal long-term, but right now I don’t have the space for it. It makes me feel better to mentally check that off my list for the next few months so I can concentrate on other things.
Adjust Goals to Not Be So Rigid
I’m also looking at how I can adjust some goals. As many of you know, I have a goal of reading 52 books this year. This goal serves me really well right now, because reading helps relieve my anxiety by allowing me a little escape. But do I need the pressure of 52 books? Nah. I’ll keep reading when I want. I’m sure I’ll hit 52 anyway, but the goal is just going to be to read more.
I think adjusting financial goals in this way will be really important right now. If you had a big savings or debt payment goal, be easy on yourself, especially if your financial picture has changed. Keep moving toward your goal, but be more flexible and realistic.
Think about why you set some goals and reframe them in today’s environment. I set a movement goal to both stay fit and for mental health reasons. Right now, this goal is more important than ever for me. But I’m letting go of any fitness expectations, and am merely concentrating on mental health right now. The WHY is no longer just for me, but to stay positive and happy for my family during a more difficult time than normal. By reframing this one in that way, this goal is now a top priority I’m leaning into even more.
Set New Goals for a New World
Since a lot has changed, this may be the time to set new goals, ones that are more relevant. Maybe this is around home-schooling, creating additional income or cooking meals at home. Definitely add ones that are about recharging, connecting with others and creating joy wherever possible.
Try not to put a lot of pressure on new goals. When school was called off, we saw so many color-coded charts around our kids’ school days at home. I don’t think we need to be so rigid. Let’s all do our best with the new expectations on us.
Carry on with Goals That Keep You Going
If you’re someone who needs goals to maintain normalcy, if you love structure and that’s getting you through this time, keep going! Sometimes when a lot is changing around us, it helps to continue with your goals and not feel like you’re falling behind. Again, have grace with yourself, taking a pause if you need to.
For example, I have a goal of posting to my blog once a week. Today, it felt good to do my writing and post as usual. Next week it might not, and that’s fine. Do what feels right for you in the moment.
Again, it’s all about having grace with yourself. Lean into your feelings and approach goals in a way that helps you right now. We’ll all get through this, especially if we’re kind to ourselves.